There are some days that change in a blink—days where you wake up with one plan, but life, God, and the enemy have other things in motion. This was one of those days. A day where the words unexpected ER visit became part of our story. A day that was supposed to be filled with nothing more than birthday laughter, cake, and Sunday worship turned into one of the heaviest mama days I’ve had in a long time.
Waking Up With Worry
From the moment Kale woke up that morning, something wasn’t right. As a mama, you can just see it in your child’s face. That heaviness. That strain. The quiet way they answer your questions instead of with their usual spark.
Kale had been fighting chest pain since Friday night. Not just little aches—but pain that spread into his shoulder, neck, and even down his arm. Pain that kept him from sleeping. Pain that made every breath sharp. And as I poured my coffee and got ready for church, I could tell by the look in his eyes that this wasn’t going away.
The whole family felt it. We carried this quiet worry with us as we got dressed for Sunday morning. Even while Ella was excited for her birthday lunch after service, there was this cloud hanging low. And that’s what made the morning feel so heavy—joy for one child, fear for another, all mixed up inside this mama heart.
Walking Into Worship With Heavy Hearts
By the time we slid into our church pew, I’ll be honest—I was tired before the day had even begun. My heart was racing with questions: What if it’s his heart? What if we’re missing something serious? How do I celebrate Ella’s birthday with this lingering worry?
Part of what made the worry so overwhelming was the memory of my husband’s death. His passing was sudden, unexpected, and nothing like what Kale was experiencing. There were no warning signs, no slow build, no time to prepare. One day he was here, and the next he was gone.
That kind of loss never leaves you. It plants a fear deep inside you, a fear that rises up any time a loved one says the words “chest pain” or “something doesn’t feel right.”
So while Kale’s symptoms were completely different than what took my husband from us, the suddenness of it all brought every raw memory back to the surface. It was like my heart went straight back to that day—the shock, the helplessness, the ache that never fully leaves.
And that’s why walking into an unexpected ER visit rattled us so deeply. Because once you’ve lived through loss like that, anything health-related feels like the ground could drop out from beneath you at any moment.
But then the worship began. And oh, mamas, it felt like battle. Every lyric, every note, felt like it was being sung against the weight of spiritual warfare pressing on my family.
I stood there with my hands raised, tears slipping down my cheeks, singing words of victory while fear tried to grip me tight. It was like the Lord was reminding me in that moment: “You’re not fighting this alone. I am with you.”
Because the truth is, I believe with all my heart that my family has been walking through spiritual warfare. One hit after another. One storm rolling in as soon as the other fades. And this morning, I could feel it again. But worship became our weapon.
The Message That Spoke Directly to Us
If worship was the battle cry, the message that morning was the reminder of God’s sovereignty. The pastor spoke about how God opens and closes doors. About how sometimes we don’t understand the timing, but His hand is always at work, guiding us, protecting us, redirecting us.
And as I listened, I couldn’t help but think: Isn’t that what today is? A door we didn’t want to walk through—a hospital visit on Ella’s birthday—but maybe a door of protection. Maybe God was closing a door to something dangerous by opening the door of an unexpected ER visit.
It wasn’t lost on me. The whole time I sat there, heart pounding, I felt God saying, I see Kale. I see you. And I am already making a way.
Ella’s Bold Voice

After church, the plan was simple: birthday lunch for Ella. She deserved it—my baby girl turning another year older. But in the middle of planning which restaurant and who would sit where, Ella’s voice cut through the noise:
“Kale needs to get checked out. Today. No more waiting.”
She was adamant. Fierce, even. And I looked at her and realized—God was using her. Her birthday became the push Kale needed to get medical help. Sometimes the youngest voices in the room are the bravest, aren’t they?
So instead of heading to cake and celebration, we headed to the hospital. And once again, I whispered, thank you, Jesus, for a daughter bold enough to speak what we were all too afraid to say.
The Unexpected ER Visit
Walking into that ER, my mama heart was in pieces. Seeing Kale doubled over, struggling to lay down, clutching his chest—it felt like time froze.
The words “chest pain,” “shortness of breath,” and “high blood pressure” coming out of a nurse’s mouth are words no mama ever wants to hear. Especially when you’re days away from sending that child thousands of miles away to college.
But God was there. Even in the hospital hallways. Even in the fear.
A nurse practitioner who knew our story helped expedite Kale’s care. Instead of waiting days or weeks, he was scheduled for a stress test before leaving for school. Every step felt like provision. Every answer felt like mercy.
The Possible Diagnosis

At the end of it all, the doctors mentioned pleurisy as the likely culprit. A word I had never spoken before. Inflammation of the lining of the lungs. Something that feels a lot like heart pain but isn’t.
Relief? Yes. Still scary? Absolutely. Because watching your son grimace with every breath, still wincing at the sharp pains, doesn’t feel like a neat and tidy diagnosis. It feels messy. It feels unresolved.
And now, instead of a simple birthday week, our family calendar is full of follow-ups, tests, and doctor’s visits—all before Kale packs his bags and steps into his next chapter.
A Mama’s Exhaustion
By the time we got home, I wanted to collapse. My body felt heavy with adrenaline, my spirit tired from fighting battles seen and unseen. And still, there were kids to feed, birthday candles to light, hugs to give, prayers to whisper.
This is the exhaustion only a mama knows. That strange mix of fear and love, of wanting to crumble but also needing to stand strong because your babies are watching.
I’ll be honest—I needed a nap. Not just a physical nap, but supernatural rest. The kind only God can give when the world feels overwhelming.
The Spiritual Warfare Battle

This unexpected ER visit wasn’t just about Kale’s health. It felt like another strike in the bigger war my family has been walking through. One after another, the battles come. Loss. Change. Fear. Transition. And now health scares.
But mamas, hear me when I say this: the enemy may come for your family, but he will not win. Worship is our weapon. Prayer is our armor. And even in the hospital room, God’s presence was greater.
Today reminded me that yes, spiritual warfare is real, but so is the God who fights for us.
Holding Two Things at Once
What I’ll remember most about this day is how it held both joy and fear. Birthday balloons and ER bracelets. Laughter and tears. Cake and chest pain.
Motherhood is this constant holding of two things at once. And while my mama heart aches that Ella’s birthday was marked by her brother’s pain, I’m also grateful. Grateful that her boldness pushed him to get help. Grateful that we caught something early. Grateful that God was present in every detail.
Lessons From the Day
- Listen to the nudge. When something feels off with your child, don’t ignore it.
- Let your kids speak up. Ella’s insistence may have been the very reason Kale is getting answers today.
- Trust the timing. The worship, the sermon, the nurse practitioner—it was all God’s timing, not mine.
- See the spiritual battle. Don’t brush off the heaviness. Recognize it, pray against it, and fight with faith.
- Cling to Jesus. Because in the end, He’s the only one who gives peace when the unknown is overwhelming.
Looking Ahead
The next few days will be filled with follow-ups, packing lists, and goodbyes. My mama heart feels torn—wanting answers, wanting peace, and also trying to soak in the last moments before college takes Kale away.
But even in the worry, I’m choosing trust. God is opening doors. God is closing doors. And even when those doors look like unexpected ER visits, I know His hand is steady on the handle.
Final Thoughts

This wasn’t the birthday I imagined for Ella. It wasn’t the send-off I pictured for Kale. But maybe, just maybe, it was exactly the door God meant for us to walk through today.
Because sometimes the interruptions are His protection. Sometimes the delays are His mercy. And sometimes the unexpected ER visit is the very place He reminds you: I am here. I am faithful. I am good.
So tonight, I’m tucking my babies in, whispering prayers of protection, and asking God for the supernatural rest only He can provide.
You are an inspiration to all mamas. I thank you for sharing ALL details of your journey. With love ❤️
I truly feel you. Today would have been my 41st Wedding Anniversary. And I’m alone, estranged from my both my daughters. I’m cooking a steak dinner(his fav) with a broken leg. Alone…Praying for you. 💜
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Lori , I am with you in spirit and feel all your pain as it bring to me the loss and love for family I have as well. I love your story (family) as if you are my own family. Please know I cry right there with you. You’ve brought spirit and love into my heart with the love and trust in Jesus and your loss reminds me of my loss (estrangement) of my daughter and grandsons. Family is our everything as you know and Jesus is the reason we love as we do. Lori, as the “mawmaw” I am to 5 soon to be 6 grandchildren, I doubly feel this love and you and your family feel so close to me. Loss is insanely devastating and I feel it for you because of my loss from my own.
Please know, you are so very loved from afar. I wish I were there to be grandmomma for you all.
Much love from Indiana.
Barbara Pate
Prayer for Kale and you all. Make sure you ask all the questions. I had a similar episode. Went to ER. Said it was pneumonia and pleurisy. Did all the tests in coming weeks. Saw a pulmonologist and he said no way! ER misdiagnosed. It was actually pulmonary edema! The antibiotics they gave me to take from er did nothing. A month later still feeling off. It finally went away and pulmonary dr said this happens a lot . So not to scare you but ask all the questions. Prayers for you all! God has you. Sending much love.
oh my goodness! Thank you for sharing, praying you are feeling better!
OMGosh I was in tears reading this (my Santa Rosa Beach new girlfriend)! Yah the private property fight!! 😡still continues. But your voice and reading your stories are raw, heavy and powerful and full of hope and love.
Your kids are so lucky to have you as their mom. Thanks to God, that memorable day is another page in your beautiful journey
So what did they do for Kales pain? Is he on medications?
I am so sorry you all are going through one more thing! Praying that Kale gets a totally clear on his heart! Praying for you all as Kale goes off to college and the rest of the family starts a new phase without Kale at home. ❤️
I am so glad that this happened before your son left for college. How awful it would have been for him there and not with his family. Maybe this can be resolved so that he can start college pain free and healthy. Wishing you the best. The year after my husband passed away was awful. I felt I was doing battle all year long. I totally understand. It does settle down and you will feel better. Life will calm down. Won’t be the same but it can still be good. ❤️
I am so thankful too!! So sorry to hear of your loss too 🙁 Appreciate your sweet words of encouragement!
Lori !
I’m so thankful that God worked through Ella & SHE LISTENED to his voice.
Discernment is a wonderful gift that God only gives.
Praying for Kale & YOU as a Momma.
Praying for Ella, Fisher, & Lily as Siblings to Kale.
God IS GOOD ALL THE TIME, ALL THE TIME God IS GOOD.
Thank you Jesus for your grace, mercy, & protection.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Amen!!