Hey guys—I'm Kale, Lori’s son.
If you’ve been around here for a while, you’ve probably seen parts of my life through my mom’s posts. But this… this is a part of my story I’ve never really sat down and shared like this before.
And honestly, I think it’s time.
Because I don’t think people really understand what it feels like when your life just… resets.
For me, it all hit at once.
Losing More Than Just a Game
After my dad passed, I was still trying to play college baseball my sophomore year. I wanted to keep going—I really did—but mentally, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I was drained, burned out, and honestly just trying to survive the day-to-day.
And when I stepped away… it wasn’t just losing my dad anymore.
It was losing baseball too.
And that was my whole life.
Baseball wasn’t just a sport for me.
It was structure. Discipline. Brotherhood. Routine.
It gave my life direction.
My days were built around it. I didn’t have to wonder what I was doing next… it was already there.
Then all of a sudden—it wasn’t.
When You Lose Your Structure, You Lose Yourself Too
I went into that summer and eventually transferred to GCU for my junior year, but everything felt off. Like I was living a life I didn’t really recognize.
No baseball. My dad gone.
And I kept thinking…
What am I even supposed to do now?
I had all this free time—but no direction.
No routine.
No structure.
No clear next step.
And over time, that started showing up in how I felt every single day.
I was constantly tired.
Unmotivated.
Distracted.
Mentally exhausted. Stressed all the time. Struggling to focus.
Even going to the gym felt different.
It used to be something I loved. Something that was part of who I was.
Now it felt… bittersweet.
Like I knew it was good for me—but it also reminded me of everything I had lost.
Grief Doesn’t Just Hit Emotionally—It Hits Physically
When life hits you like that, it’s not just in your head.
It shows up in your body.
Your energy drops.
Your focus disappears.
Your drive just… isn’t there anymore.
And for a while, I just sat in that.
Trying different things. Hoping something would click.
But it felt like I was just stacking layer after layer of exhaustion.
The Moment I Decided Something Had to Change
Eventually, I hit a point where I was just done.
Done feeling stuck.
Done feeling like I had no control.
Done feeling like I wasn’t even myself anymore.
And I remember thinking:
I can’t keep living like this.
I might not be able to control what’s happened…
but I can control what I do next.
Rebuilding My Health, Discipline, and Mindset
For me, that meant starting over.
Not all at once.
Not perfectly.
But intentionally.
Rebuilding my health.
Rebuilding my routine.
Rebuilding my discipline.
Rebuilding my mindset.
Because I know I’m meant to be more than this version of myself that feels tired, off, and stuck.
I know I’m supposed to feel sharp again. Focused again. Structured again.
I’m not there yet… but I’m working on it.
Why I’m Taking a Different Approach
That’s what led me into this next step.
Part curiosity.
Part frustration.
But mostly just a desire to change.
I started realizing that if I wanted my energy, focus, and drive back… I had to look deeper.
Not just surface-level fixes.
But what’s actually going on inside my body.
What I’m lacking.
What needs to be rebuilt from the inside out.
And that’s what I’m starting to focus on now.
Documenting the Real Journey
I’m not here to pretend I have it all figured out.
I’m documenting this as I go.
Not the perfect version—the real version.
Because if you’ve ever felt like life flipped on you…
like you lost your structure, your direction, or even a part of who you were—
then you get it.
This is what a reset looks like.
If You’re in a Reset Season Too
Maybe your story looks different than mine.
But if you’re in a season where you feel stuck, off, or like you’re starting over…
I just want you to know—you’re not alone in that.
And you don’t have to stay there.
This is mine.
This is my reset.
And I’m choosing to take control of what I can.
Want to Follow Along (or Start Your Own Reset)?
I’m sharing more about what I’m doing, what I’m learning, and how I’m rebuilding my health, energy, and routine step by step.
If you’re someone who’s:
~Trying to get your energy back
~Wanting more structure and discipline again
~looking for a real way to rebuild from the inside out
You can learn more about what I’m doing and walk this out alongside me.
This isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about taking that first step forward.
And if you’re ready for your own reset…
I’d be glad to have you in it with me.
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Your Dad would be so Proud of you kale
Give yourself grace ! A restart can be a Beautiful thing a good thing in life !
Gods grace is renewed every morning kale you just keep being you sweetheart your a great son and brother I know your family loves you ! You have a bright light Kale I’ve watched you at times you show up in my phone I love Ella and your mom and your other cute sister and I’m happy for your mom she deserves some Joy! Isn’t God so good ! Just watch over your mom stay close to your loved ones and stay around people that encourage you and are real that’s your people honey ! I need energy I lost my dad too Jake and my baby brother 2 years ago 3 mos apart ! I’ve dealt with a lot of grief in my life too ! Please say a prayer for me and some for my mother Twyla
She’s 83 we live in Baton Rouge !
If you ever travel my way I’d love to meet you in person ! All my Love to you kid keep looking up kale keep your eyes on Jesus ! He had great plans for you ! Baby you’re just beginning to Live your Life ! Reach for the stars 🩵🩵🩵⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🩵🩵🩵
Teresa, thank you so much for taking the time to write such an encouraging message. ❤️ Your kindness toward Kale and our family means more than you know.
I know his dad would be so proud of the young man he’s becoming, and I’m incredibly proud of him too. Thank you for lifting him up and for sharing your own story with us. I’m so sorry for the losses you’ve experienced.
I’ll absolutely be praying for you, your mom, and your family. Thank you for being part of this community and for pointing all of us back to Jesus. May God continue to give you strength and peace one day at a time. ❤️
This is an awesome testimony of how you rebuilt your life
I toonlost my non in November of 2022 and then lost my husband unexpectedly like your dad in November of 2023 and. my best friend of over. 49. years November of 2023. I had dealt with 3 most important people all within 1 year and I know what you are talking about with the fog, the what is my new normal etc.. I went to into a depression and wouldn’t allow myself to camp there. I recently pulled myself together and my life feels unstuck. Yes I still miss them terrible but I a. 71 and still have alot of life to live. Very happy to.hear your story. your dad would be proud of you. You have a remarkable motherhood has helped me going through everything she was going through. God bless you and always keep your focus on Jesud
Susan, thank you so much for sharing your story with me. ❤️ I am so deeply sorry for all of the loss you’ve had to carry in such a short time. Grief can leave us wondering who we even are anymore, but hearing that you’ve found joy and purpose again gives so much hope. Thank you for your kind words about my mom and Quintin. Your encouragement truly means more than you know. I’ll be praying God continues to strengthen you in this new season.
I was just commenting under Ella’s story. You have a great story too. I look forward to seeing the journey between the three of you and I’m thinking about journeying alongside of you three this summer once I recover from my surgery in April.